People who are in fulfilling relationships have a generally favorable opinion of their mate. These couples truly appreciate one another and are careful with what they do and in how they conduct themselves. By giving each other the benefit of the doubt, supportive couples can understand their tender spot and know how to spar with each other. They excel at overcoming criticism by demonstrating empathy. For instance, “I won’t take it personally because I know she’s had a really stressful day.” They may also effortlessly communicate their hurt in a way that is understood and accepted.  They may say, “I’m saddened by the way that comment was made but I respect it, and I’d love to understand you about what’s really going on.” After a disagreement, these couples work that their partner is there for them even though they have a different opinion and then go on. They spend that time discussing each other’s wider perspectives.