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Sex is like air; it’s not that important unless you aren’t getting any!
Sex is basically a workout for your heart and soul! It lowers blood pressure, helps you sleep like a baby, boosts your self-esteem, adds years to your life, strengthens relationships, and even burns calories — all while having fun! So, why does everyone get so awkward talking about it?
I am Simona, acredited Sex Therapist and I work from Maitland, Newcastle some of the time I work online. Anyway, whether addressing relationship challenges or individual concerns, our starting point is different. Factors such as mental and physical health, addictions, conflicts, shifts in family dynamics, breakups, blended families, stress, financial and work-related issues, age, cultural influences, religious and spiritual beliefs, technology, social media, and timing can all play a role.
If you’re dealing with sexual concerns and want to build more intimacy and satisfaction in your relationships, sex therapy might be just the game-changer you need. As your sex therapist, I’m here to help you with:
Diverse Situations
Life has a funny way of shaping how we see and experience sex—whether it’s just us or with a partner. Sometimes, things click perfectly, and other times, it’s like the Wi-Fi drops out right in the middle of a great show. These twists and turns can throw us into unfamiliar territory, where pleasure feels out of reach or connection seems off-kilter. But here’s the good news: with a little attention and effort, we can get things back on track, bringing the fun, harmony, and spark back into the mix!
“You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.” – George Burns
Personalised Approach
As a trained and accredited sex therapist, I know that when it comes to sex therapy, one size definitely doesn’t fit all—because, let’s face it, everyone’s different! You’re the star of the show here, and we’ll tackle whatever’s on your mind together. Sure, some concerns might look similar on the surface, but what really matters is your unique story. Together, we’ll uncover what your sexual well-being needs and make sure those key pieces come to light. Think of it as a custom-tailored approach to feeling more confident and connected!
Getting to know yourself is like finding the secret cheat code for sex and relationships—it just makes everything work better! When you understand what you really want, need, and desire (yes, even the weird stuff), life feels a lot less complicated. At Sex Therapy Maitland and Newcastle, Simona’s here to help you figure it all out—without judgment, just real talk. Explore how relationships shape you and why understanding yourself is the best gift you can give to, well, yourself.
- Female Lack of Intimacy
- Male Sexual Desire
- Other: Asexuality
- LGBTIQ
- Sexual Abuse
- Dating Apps
Got Questions? It’s Totally Cool to Ask a Pro!
Let’s be real—most of us grew up with awkward talks (if any!) about sex and some seriously lacking sex ed. So, it’s no surprise that dealing with sexual challenges isn’t exactly on anyone’s bucket list. On top of that, we’re constantly hit with sexual content full of bad info, unrealistic images, and sky-high expectations that can make anyone feel a little “off” about their sex life. But here’s the thing—you don’t have to handle it alone. Reaching out for help is brave, and it’s the first step toward feeling better!
Confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear—and it looks great on every body.
Self-esteem, Body image and Sex
Body image is all about how I picture my body in my mind and what I see when I check myself out in the mirror. When negative thoughts and feelings about my body stick around, that’s body dissatisfaction. It’s an inside job—how I think and feel—but it’s also influenced by outside stuff, like pressure to look a certain way. This dissatisfaction can push people toward unhealthy habits, like disordered eating or feeling “meh” about sex, and that can lead to bigger issues, like sexual disorders.
On the flip side, self-esteem is all about how much I value and respect myself. It’s like the secret sauce for happiness and wellbeing because it affects pretty much every part of life!
How I feel about myself and my body can totally shape how I feel about my sex life. When my self-esteem is rocking and I feel good about my body, sex is usually more fun and fulfilling. But if I’m wrestling with self-doubt or body image issues, it can make intimacy feel awkward or less satisfying. The good news? Boosting my confidence and building a positive vibe with my body can make a world of difference in enjoying my sex life.
- Eating disorders
- Body image and appearance-related concerns
- Weight loss goals
- Sex dissatisfaction
Embarrassment and Sex
Let’s face it—most of us think, That’ll never happen to me. And when it does, we’re convinced the embarrassment will stick around forever. But here’s the truth: tackling the issue head-on, with the right tools, makes things way easier and less stressful. Talking openly about sexual concerns beats bottling them up, and it’s a chance to ditch the blame game, ease up on the defensiveness, and get curious about finding solutions. That’s where a sex therapist comes in—to help you work through it and get back to feeling like yourself!
Figuring out what’s really going on with your problem is like turning on a light in a messy room—you can finally see what you’re dealing with! Once we’ve got that clarity, it’s all about picking the right game plan to tackle those issues and clear the way for solutions.
Grief and Loss and Sex
Grief is a natural response to losing something or someone you deeply care about. The bigger the loss, the more intense the grief—it’s like your heart is carrying a weight you didn’t ask for.
Grief doesn’t stay in one lane; it can show up in every corner of your life. It can mess with your emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and even your body. It might shake up your sense of self, your identity, and your relationships with others. One moment you’re sad, the next you’re angry, anxious, overwhelmed, or maybe even numb. Grief is unpredictable, and it’s normal to feel a mix of things like regret, relief, isolation, or irritability.
And here’s the thing: grief can also affect your sex life. It might make intimacy feel distant, unimportant, or even overwhelming. For some, grief creates a longing for connection, while for others, it can lead to avoidance or discomfort. Understanding how grief impacts your emotions and relationships is a big step toward navigating its effects, including those on your sexual well-being.
“Grief changes us, but love—including through intimacy—can help us heal.”
– Anonymous
Trauma and Sex
Trauma can be anything that leaves a lasting mark on us—whether it’s a physical injury, emotional wound, or an overwhelming experience that causes extreme stress. It’s not just about what happened in the past; as Dr. Bessel van der Kolk says, trauma is “the current imprint of that pain, horror, and fear living inside us.” It changes how we see the world, often leaving us stuck in feelings of helplessness and hyper-awareness of danger.
When it comes to sex, trauma can deeply impact our willingness and ability to engage. Intimacy might feel unsafe, triggering, or just too vulnerable. The body can carry the echoes of the past, and even the idea of closeness might stir up fear or discomfort. Healing involves reconnecting with your sense of safety, building trust with yourself and your partner, and finding ways to feel in control and supported as you navigate intimacy.
“Trauma may silence the body, but through love and trust, intimacy can help it find its voice again.”
Concerns we address:
- Lack of Intimacy
- Low Sexual Desire
- Changes in Libido
- Female Sexual Aversion
- Asexuality
- Cultural Diversity
- Dating
- Relationship difficulties
- Compulsive behaviours: masturbation, pornography, internet sexual behaviours
- Erectile Dysfunction - inability to achieve & maintain an erection
- Social Media
- Performance Anxiety
- Female Sexual Arousal
- Parenting
- Infidelity
- Ageing
- Menopause
- Sexual Phobias
- Premature Ejaculation
- Retrograde Ejaculation
- Painful Ejaculation
- Anejaculation
- Sex during and after childbirth
- Sex Therapy with Ageing Adults
- Sexual Health STI’s, HIV, Aids
- Alternative Sexual and Relationship Lifestyles - Polyamory, Swinging, Swapping, Fetishes, Kink, BDSM
- Religious and cultural background Diversity and Inclusivity
Let’s begin this journey together:
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